Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”
As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”
Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.
“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”
Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.
At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”
A most valuable lesson, don’t you think? And a reminder most of us need from time to time. Everyone gets angry occasionally. The real test is what we DO with it.
If we are wise, we will spend our time building bridges rather than barriers in our relationships.
Wow, What a good message.. thank you so much
yesterday I made mistake , even I lose my Temper with my parents … i said nonsense things to my parents , I am feeling very guilty still but I learn a lesson guys that I made a very big mistake and I am not supposed to do this again , i need to control my Temper.
👍🙏…I am very glad to know that you have realised your mistake…
For real its educative…and also I really have to share this with my friends
So good story??????????
For real its educative
Av read it before from storybook
I really love this story because whenever i get angry i read this story and it really inspire me
Wonderful.. Very motivational n inspiring story.
Its showing the reality of the era due to overburden..
Teachers, parents and guidians let’s not give up on these bad tempered kids but try as much as possible help them out…
The best story for angry person..It’s gave to best inspiration for our life..I like that….
Thanks this story helps me a lot
I will try.. I am also very hot tempered person.. because of temper I have lost many things in my life..
Stories giving a great thinking
This is a wonderful story … love it a lot and also it describes what many of us do!
This is a really good story it will teach others.
Wow its very nice i appreciate wat u have done
I really liked this story as it is related to my profession and my attitude too. From onwards i will try to be well tempered even though i have shown my ill tempered to my friends.
I like the story very nice 🙂 🙂
Excellent!!! Thanks for your inspiration
This helped me a lot as a hot headed person.
Relate much… :’)
Thanks to Jesus
I heard this story 3 years back. Since then I have narrated this story to so many friends, relatives and children. I hope this must have left good impression on them.
I am the boy in this story. Thanks for the solution.
It’s a story worth sharing to friends.
Superb… Brilliant … Best story ever heard.
Very good lesson for teens.
Wonderful! I love it!
It is a good story for me. I won’t scare anybody.
Nice. I am very inspired by your story. I was once a hot tempered boy but now I am very patient. This story is perfect for other kids like me.
This is a masterpiece! Very creative, well narrated and driving the point home. It leaves no scars man, but you’ll never be the same again. Muchas Gracias!
Really nice story, hope that I can resolve any relationship conflict that has taken a toll on my life.
I liked it!! Really nice. Great to read this story as I too loose my temper at occasions.
I was needing a nice and moralfull story and I got it. It is a very good story for my school assembly. Thank you.
Heart touching …
It is a nice story…
I’ve learnt a good lesson from dis piece. Keep de good work up. Thanks.
Nice, great, awesome story. There are some people in the world who r not having control on themselves which sometimes lead to violence….so be-careful while acting like this…because this type of behaviour will not give you success ever in your life!!!!
Please can anyone explain the following lines in simple way? I could not understand.
“”Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”
Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.””
That was a very good story, I need to look deep into me, to love and to respect all.
Thnks a ton for such a gud morale story..hpe this remain always in my brain..nd whenevr i get angry..hpe this gud story comes in front of my anger….God bless
Wonderful story to convey message among children— how to control their anger!!!
Brilliant, oh brilliant.
Very nice story
I learned a good lesson of life. So be calm and don’t become anger too quick.
It is so very amazing and I have learned a lesson today, don’t have bad temper for a simple problem.
I am a regular reader of your website. I like many more stories but this story was fantastic… and I love most stories about goals… This site is amazing. Thanks to everyone.
It’s a wonderful story. And evryone has to control our angry and realise once, it may hurt some one feeling so badly that never again can be same. Think twice, because it may spoil a good relationship.
I found this very inspirational to reduce my anger as well
Superb story….we don’t get anything for being angry. It’s true we should control our temper…
Truly this is a nice and touching story to me bcus I used to be like dat boy but I thank God for his grace I was able to control my temper now, more grease to ur elbow.