Temper control

by Stephen on October 22, 2008 · 123 comments

in Moral Stories

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”

As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”

Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.

“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”

Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.

At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”

A most valuable lesson, don’t you think? And a reminder most of us need from time to time. Everyone gets angry occasionally. The real test is what we DO with it.

If we are wise, we will spend our time building bridges rather than barriers in our relationships.

Author Unknown

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1 Ms. Erika M. Calaranan February 15, 2009 at 7:39 am

I like the story very much! It is related to the profession that I chose. As a teacher, I should control my temper because if not, what my tongue said would leave to students forever. Hope other teachers would read this!

2 Lustypups May 14, 2009 at 5:20 am

This story is a fantastic way to explain how things said in anger can leave their mark just as much as a kick or punch. Working with children everyday is full of situations that require tales just like this.

3 Gift Major September 20, 2009 at 2:52 am

This story is very apt and relevant to everyday living. Every human being needs to read it and adhere to its message of self control when we are angry as it will make the world a beautiful place to live in.

4 Ayush December 28, 2009 at 2:03 pm

Actually, i think this story is connected to me bcos i m very hot temper. I must try this nail-fence way. May b i control myself.

5 Uzaiba June 7, 2010 at 4:18 am

I like the story very much as students we must control our temper in front of our teachers and as high leaders of school too.

6 Shubhanand June 29, 2010 at 6:51 pm

Simply superb

7 Sri July 11, 2010 at 8:00 am

The story is simply superb. I recommend readers to take in the complete value that the story focuses and practice it everyday.

8 Yean Thoong August 7, 2010 at 3:24 am

Very true~ =’C

9 Nazariy from Ukraine September 15, 2010 at 1:58 pm

It is very good story! But it is so hard to change a temper when the stupid neighbour from the lower floor is smoking.

10 Sharmishtha October 10, 2010 at 1:04 am

I like the story very much as I too loose temper very easily and I am damn sure dat people who read it once will defenitely come wid fruitful results in controlling their temper. Thanks a lot!!!

11 Shikha October 27, 2010 at 12:12 am

I have no words to say thanks to u, I have this problem of saying rubbish during my anger outburst and off course I regret and remorse later but it does not save me to repeat it again when triggered. I will remember this story always. God bless.

12 kirthi November 9, 2010 at 11:33 am

it was realy nice and very meaning full one.

13 Mr. Vishal Jadhav February 1, 2011 at 4:43 am

Look before you leap. I personally never get angry.

14 Emmanuel olushola Aloge February 16, 2011 at 4:05 am

The impression we create today tells more about who we are and our being reasonable to adapt to good morals goes a long way to make us men and women of great value. I am happy to have come across this site

15 krishna February 16, 2011 at 9:34 pm

Really a good one. I will narrate it to my students today in school.

16 Adnan March 14, 2011 at 3:26 am

So true and practical !!

17 cmmudkavi March 15, 2011 at 2:16 am

Nicely narrated story to arrive at a teaching which helps growing children to remember not to lose temper at any time of their life. Calmness and politeness reward suitable gifts to them.

18 Seshu March 16, 2011 at 4:02 am

Really wonderful somewhat it relates to me also as i am very bad tempered, but this story has somewhat made me think to change myself.

19 vinod kumar singh March 18, 2011 at 1:02 pm

These short story will definately help us to control our nerve . may many people read and implement it

20 manali April 28, 2011 at 3:32 am

Simply too good!!! It is all the way related to me, I am very short tempered…!!! I will surely try to implement this.

21 shoaib May 9, 2011 at 12:12 am


22 Naveen May 20, 2011 at 7:38 am

Amazing ……really very good one……

23 mahesh kumar May 25, 2011 at 10:04 am

Really Good story…..

24 Silvia Sharma June 10, 2011 at 7:49 am

Hello……I read your story….I really very nice…..Thanks a lot for giving us a wonderful knowledge……:)

25 gunburmawan June 12, 2011 at 8:34 am

So nice…
God bless you…

26 Gurwinderball June 20, 2011 at 11:51 pm

This story was amazing…………………….. and fantastic.

27 Salman June 24, 2011 at 1:52 am

Nice message to others to bring change in life…

28 A.Sudha June 24, 2011 at 8:31 am

This is a very nice story, I hope my daughter will get prize in a story telling competition. I have choosen this story. It helps not only kids but also elders. Thank you very much for giving us such a nice story.

29 Prasanna June 30, 2011 at 1:46 am

The story was really nice…. I like it 🙂

30 bala July 7, 2011 at 11:29 pm

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31 Aboah Kofi James July 8, 2011 at 10:13 am

I like this story and I believe those who read will learn a lesson from it. God bless the writer.

32 Chona Gamboa (Philippines) July 9, 2011 at 1:09 am

This short story is very inspirational. These are the kind of stories that people must have time to read and reflect. Because we are too busy with our career and work that we somehow tend to forget that we still need to meditate among ourselves and continue learning by reading such as this.

This is the website I am using to get inspiration stories for a news letter where I currently am working as a Training Officer and it helps a lot……..


33 Manish Jain July 16, 2011 at 1:46 pm

One should read this and try it out. It really works!.

34 Ricky Boy August 4, 2011 at 8:17 pm

yeah, me too… I’d also relate on these story I am hot temper kind of person also. thankz to the person who uploaded this story. 🙂

35 aditya August 19, 2011 at 9:30 am

Very nice story I liked that very much

36 UMESH August 28, 2011 at 11:04 pm

Gud one.
Anger is a one thing which we should have control on it. We should not allow anger to control ourselves.

37 Obus August 29, 2011 at 6:31 pm

Sure, this story has actually opened my eyes to the truth about anger, sorry doesn’t cure all wounds caused by anger so i have to keep that anger in check when next it comes around me. Thanks a bunch for this.

38 Rajesh August 30, 2011 at 4:54 am

Superb story. I will always remember this story in my life and try to control my temper.

39 Hemanth September 21, 2011 at 5:59 am

Nice story.. Too much Control of temper sometimes leads to Fear in future

40 Aksahy Raj November 8, 2011 at 1:43 am

Nice story………..

41 Isha November 10, 2011 at 5:17 am

really i should try it

42 Cecil Luther November 20, 2011 at 12:19 am

Wonderful, Awesome

43 Sindhu December 6, 2011 at 8:34 am

It’s really a good story! Awesome

44 Udit January 24, 2012 at 1:32 pm

Anger indeed takes it all….! It is better to control anger before it is too late. Nice story.. 🙂

45 Muztaba February 10, 2012 at 9:51 pm

I like the story which is very important for todays teenagers …..

46 Syed Suheel March 4, 2012 at 10:15 am

Few words with big meaning…

47 Ashely April 5, 2012 at 6:28 pm

So true….

48 Samreen Tajammul April 8, 2012 at 3:51 am

Great! Nice way to teach the kids… really interesting. Love it!!!

49 Asad Tajammul April 8, 2012 at 10:11 am

Mind blowing story!!!!!

50 Lilsta April 19, 2012 at 9:54 am

Its a beautiful story… i am posting it on my page collection from a heart to heart ^_^ hope it will be able to change some people if not all… thank you

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