Temper control

by Stephen on October 22, 2008 · 112 comments

in Moral stories

Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on their team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”

As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”

Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.

“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “you get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”

Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.

At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take one more good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”

A most valuable lesson, don’t you think? And a reminder most of us need from time to time. Everyone gets angry occasionally. The real test is what we DO with it.

If we are wise, we will spend our time building bridges rather than barriers in our relationships.

Author Unknown

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{ 112 comments… read them below or add one }

1. Ms. Erika M. Calaranan — February 15, 2009 at 7:39 am

I like the story very much! It is related to the profession that I chose. As a teacher, I should control my temper because if not, what my tongue said would leave to students forever. Hope other teachers would read this!

2. Lustypups — May 14, 2009 at 5:20 am

This story is a fantastic way to explain how things said in anger can leave their mark just as much as a kick or punch. Working with children everyday is full of situations that require tales just like this.

3. Gift Major — September 20, 2009 at 2:52 am

This story is very apt and relevant to everyday living. Every human being needs to read it and adhere to its message of self control when we are angry as it will make the world a beautiful place to live in.

4. Ayush — December 28, 2009 at 2:03 pm

Actually, i think this story is connected to me bcos i m very hot temper. I must try this nail-fence way. May b i control myself.

5. Uzaiba — June 7, 2010 at 4:18 am

I like the story very much as students we must control our temper in front of our teachers and as high leaders of school too.

6. Shubhanand — June 29, 2010 at 6:51 pm

Simply superb

7. Sri — July 11, 2010 at 8:00 am

The story is simply superb. I recommend readers to take in the complete value that the story focuses and practice it everyday.

8. Yean Thoong — August 7, 2010 at 3:24 am

Very true~ =’C

9. Nazariy from Ukraine — September 15, 2010 at 1:58 pm

It is very good story! But it is so hard to change a temper when the stupid neighbour from the lower floor is smoking.

10. Sharmishtha — October 10, 2010 at 1:04 am

I like the story very much as I too loose temper very easily and I am damn sure dat people who read it once will defenitely come wid fruitful results in controlling their temper. Thanks a lot!!!

11. Shikha — October 27, 2010 at 12:12 am

I have no words to say thanks to u, I have this problem of saying rubbish during my anger outburst and off course I regret and remorse later but it does not save me to repeat it again when triggered. I will remember this story always. God bless.

12. kirthi — November 9, 2010 at 11:33 am

it was realy nice and very meaning full one.

13. Mr. Vishal Jadhav — February 1, 2011 at 4:43 am

Look before you leap. I personally never get angry.

14. Emmanuel olushola Aloge — February 16, 2011 at 4:05 am

The impression we create today tells more about who we are and our being reasonable to adapt to good morals goes a long way to make us men and women of great value. I am happy to have come across this site

15. krishna — February 16, 2011 at 9:34 pm

Really a good one. I will narrate it to my students today in school.

16. Adnan — March 14, 2011 at 3:26 am

So true and practical !!

17. cmmudkavi — March 15, 2011 at 2:16 am

Nicely narrated story to arrive at a teaching which helps growing children to remember not to lose temper at any time of their life. Calmness and politeness reward suitable gifts to them.

18. Seshu — March 16, 2011 at 4:02 am

Really wonderful somewhat it relates to me also as i am very bad tempered, but this story has somewhat made me think to change myself.

19. vinod kumar singh — March 18, 2011 at 1:02 pm

These short story will definately help us to control our nerve . may many people read and implement it

20. manali — April 28, 2011 at 3:32 am

Simply too good!!! It is all the way related to me, I am very short tempered…!!! I will surely try to implement this.

21. shoaib — May 9, 2011 at 12:12 am

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22. Naveen — May 20, 2011 at 7:38 am

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23. mahesh kumar — May 25, 2011 at 10:04 am

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24. Silvia Sharma — June 10, 2011 at 7:49 am

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25. gunburmawan — June 12, 2011 at 8:34 am

So nice…
God bless you…

26. Gurwinderball — June 20, 2011 at 11:51 pm

This story was amazing…………………….. and fantastic.

27. Salman — June 24, 2011 at 1:52 am

Nice message to others to bring change in life…

28. A.Sudha — June 24, 2011 at 8:31 am

This is a very nice story, I hope my daughter will get prize in a story telling competition. I have choosen this story. It helps not only kids but also elders. Thank you very much for giving us such a nice story.

29. Prasanna — June 30, 2011 at 1:46 am

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30. bala — July 7, 2011 at 11:29 pm

Excellent Exotic monsoon story!

31. Aboah Kofi James — July 8, 2011 at 10:13 am

I like this story and I believe those who read will learn a lesson from it. God bless the writer.

32. Chona Gamboa (Philippines) — July 9, 2011 at 1:09 am

This short story is very inspirational. These are the kind of stories that people must have time to read and reflect. Because we are too busy with our career and work that we somehow tend to forget that we still need to meditate among ourselves and continue learning by reading such as this.

This is the website I am using to get inspiration stories for a news letter where I currently am working as a Training Officer and it helps a lot……..

Cheers.

33. Manish Jain — July 16, 2011 at 1:46 pm

One should read this and try it out. It really works!.

34. Ricky Boy — August 4, 2011 at 8:17 pm

yeah, me too… I’d also relate on these story I am hot temper kind of person also. thankz to the person who uploaded this story. :)

35. aditya — August 19, 2011 at 9:30 am

Very nice story I liked that very much

36. UMESH — August 28, 2011 at 11:04 pm

Yeh……….
Gud one.
Anger is a one thing which we should have control on it. We should not allow anger to control ourselves.

37. Obus — August 29, 2011 at 6:31 pm

Sure, this story has actually opened my eyes to the truth about anger, sorry doesn’t cure all wounds caused by anger so i have to keep that anger in check when next it comes around me. Thanks a bunch for this.

38. Rajesh — August 30, 2011 at 4:54 am

Superb story. I will always remember this story in my life and try to control my temper.

39. Hemanth — September 21, 2011 at 5:59 am

Nice story.. Too much Control of temper sometimes leads to Fear in future

40. Aksahy Raj — November 8, 2011 at 1:43 am

Nice story………..

41. Isha — November 10, 2011 at 5:17 am

really i should try it
:P

42. Cecil Luther — November 20, 2011 at 12:19 am

Wonderful, Awesome

43. Sindhu — December 6, 2011 at 8:34 am

It’s really a good story! Awesome

44. Udit — January 24, 2012 at 1:32 pm

Anger indeed takes it all….! It is better to control anger before it is too late. Nice story.. :)

45. Muztaba — February 10, 2012 at 9:51 pm

I like the story which is very important for todays teenagers …..

46. Syed Suheel — March 4, 2012 at 10:15 am

Few words with big meaning…

47. Ashely — April 5, 2012 at 6:28 pm

So true….

48. Samreen Tajammul — April 8, 2012 at 3:51 am

Great! Nice way to teach the kids… really interesting. Love it!!!

49. Asad Tajammul — April 8, 2012 at 10:11 am

Mind blowing story!!!!!

50. Lilsta — April 19, 2012 at 9:54 am

Its a beautiful story… i am posting it on my page collection from a heart to heart ^_^ hope it will be able to change some people if not all… thank you

51. Oludare — April 23, 2012 at 2:01 pm

Great story… keep up the good work.

52. Ashutosh mohle — April 23, 2012 at 10:56 pm

Great story indeed…

53. Revs — April 24, 2012 at 11:49 pm

good

54. Vaqas — May 2, 2012 at 12:05 am

It is very inspirational and motivational story. Such story leads us to control our anger.

55. Basma — May 17, 2012 at 1:28 am

This story is very intresting …..

56. Geoffrey Byamukama — May 20, 2012 at 11:06 am

Leaders should read this story. It helps to control your emotions in difficult times.

57. Rajkumar Patil — June 2, 2012 at 11:59 am

It is much needy to build nice human

58. Camilia — June 17, 2012 at 11:59 am

Anger is a wind how stops the lamp of the brain.

59. Priti Sharma — June 18, 2012 at 1:46 pm

The same problem happens with me as like the boy in the story.

60. Aminu Tawfick — July 16, 2012 at 9:54 am

I like the story very much! It is related to the profession that I chose. As a teacher, I should control my temper because if not, what my tongue said would leave to students forever. Hope other teachers would read this!

61. Sridevi — July 23, 2012 at 6:26 am

Very nice story.

62. Musungu — July 25, 2012 at 5:28 am

This is a good moral story and so helpful. It will make me calm when I am stressed up and suppossed to make major decisions.

Regards

63. Kingsley kanayo — July 28, 2012 at 1:10 pm

The story really touched my heart when I read it. I’m the type that easily gets angry, I srongly believe that I’ve learnt something from it, thanks a lot.

64. Sultana — August 9, 2012 at 11:41 pm

It’s a very nice story. It will help me to control my anger.

65. Simran — August 12, 2012 at 7:11 am

Very nice story….:) :) :) :)

66. Sruthi — August 21, 2012 at 5:30 am

Nice story.

67. Saras — August 22, 2012 at 8:02 am

Thank you….

68. Chandu — September 1, 2012 at 11:07 am

Really itz inspirable….. and the story is very nice…..

69. Rosy — September 4, 2012 at 5:53 am

Words can be like knives.. so always be careful with your words.

70. Loruel — September 6, 2012 at 5:52 pm

Who is the author of this wonderful story?

71. Leslee — September 13, 2012 at 2:25 am

Superb…

72. Cristina — October 4, 2012 at 9:14 pm

I really like the story. You can view the story in many ways. The other view is what I encountered right now. I am in the state of controlling my temper because there are people that trying to pull me down. I always ignoring them because I know that my conscience is clean. It’s up to them if they want to live life full of negativity. I believe that whoever encounters like this is the one who progress and happy.

73. Rita — October 8, 2012 at 10:03 pm

I wish the father taught him the lesson when the boy was small. I am sure the signs were there way before, still the lesson was very valuable not just for the boy but to all. Thanks.

74. Tshering — October 11, 2012 at 6:55 am

This story is true in my life. I have hurt my girlfriend. I am trying to pull the nails but I am sad that the holes will remain forever.

75. Jayson — November 2, 2012 at 4:08 am

Another great story from this site! Though I’m not that hot temper type like in the story, but it adds me constructively to be calm at all times.. Yes I have sometimes a situation where in people done very irritable things to me but then I stayed calm. Don’t know why, I just always remember that there’s no good things you can get from being mad or hot tempered..

Thumbs up to this story.

76. Harry — November 18, 2012 at 5:23 pm

Truly this is a nice and touching story to me bcus I used to be like dat boy but I thank God for his grace I was able to control my temper now, more grease to ur elbow.

77. Sakshi Takale — November 21, 2012 at 8:23 am

Superb story….we don’t get anything for being angry. It’s true we should control our temper…

78. Harsimran kaur — December 1, 2012 at 2:16 pm

I found this very inspirational to reduce my anger as well

79. Grace — December 10, 2012 at 9:28 am

It’s a wonderful story. And evryone has to control our angry and realise once, it may hurt some one feeling so badly that never again can be same. Think twice, because it may spoil a good relationship.

Thanks

80. Kanha — December 10, 2012 at 2:09 pm

I am a regular reader of your website. I like many more stories but this story was fantastic… and I love most stories about goals… This site is amazing. Thanks to everyone.

81. Sophia — December 10, 2012 at 7:32 pm

It is so very amazing and I have learned a lesson today, don’t have bad temper for a simple problem.

82. Sahil — December 18, 2012 at 9:06 am

I learned a good lesson of life. So be calm and don’t become anger too quick.

83. Sachin Kudalkar — December 26, 2012 at 9:04 am

Very nice story

84. Peter Ouma - Kenya — January 9, 2013 at 8:14 am

Brilliant, oh brilliant.

85. Padma Priya A — January 13, 2013 at 9:33 am

Wonderful story to convey message among children— how to control their anger!!!

86. Asu — January 20, 2013 at 12:01 pm

Thnks a ton for such a gud morale story..hpe this remain always in my brain..nd whenevr i get angry..hpe this gud story comes in front of my anger….God bless

87. Bhaskar — January 22, 2013 at 4:10 am

That was a very good story, I need to look deep into me, to love and to respect all.

88. Devi — January 23, 2013 at 2:27 pm

Please can anyone explain the following lines in simple way? I could not understand.

“”Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”

Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence.””

89. Areeba Qasim — February 3, 2013 at 10:28 am

Nice, great, awesome story. There are some people in the world who r not having control on themselves which sometimes lead to violence….so be-careful while acting like this…because this type of behaviour will not give you success ever in your life!!!!

90. Appiah — February 6, 2013 at 8:05 pm

I’ve learnt a good lesson from dis piece. Keep de good work up. Thanks.

91. Chandra — February 17, 2013 at 9:10 am

It is a nice story…

92. Subrat — April 11, 2013 at 12:46 pm

Heart touching …

93. Nilam Jadhav — April 12, 2013 at 2:00 am

Nice story

94. Tanisha Shree — April 13, 2013 at 9:29 am

I was needing a nice and moralfull story and I got it. It is a very good story for my school assembly. Thank you.

95. Jinukrishnan — April 17, 2013 at 3:18 pm

Awesome…….

96. Bhat Imran — April 23, 2013 at 1:16 pm

I liked it!! Really nice. Great to read this story as I too loose my temper at occasions.

97. Sam — May 5, 2013 at 2:18 am

Love :)

98. Shital — July 12, 2013 at 2:06 am

Wonderful…..thanks !

99. Ankul — July 13, 2013 at 7:05 am

Really nice story, hope that I can resolve any relationship conflict that has taken a toll on my life.

100. David — July 28, 2013 at 12:41 am

This is a masterpiece! Very creative, well narrated and driving the point home. It leaves no scars man, but you’ll never be the same again. Muchas Gracias!

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